After a month of blogging about neutrois identity and asexuality, I haven’t really taken the time to define those two terms, which are more often than not unknown or unclear. You can read more definitions on the Define page, and the Disclaimers at the bottom (in short, these definitions are my interpretations of the terms, nothing more).
What is Neutrois?
Neutrois are agendered or neutral-gendered. Neutrois are the transsexual of agendered. They experience a sense of gender dysphoria – discomfort at being in “the wrong body” – one that doesn’t correctly reflect their internal gender. Furthermore, they have a strong desire to change their body to reflect this internal gender. Transition is a process of subtraction: a neutrois wishes to get rid of any and all gendered characteristics so as to achieve as neutral a body as possible. Physical transition may consist primarily in the removal of primary and/or secondary sex characteristics, such as penis or breasts and body hair. Because the concept and identity of neutrois is relatively new, not all neutrois have undergone surgery, or even seriously want to undergo surgery or physical transition yet.
Neutrois is not androgyne, it’s quite the opposite. Androgyny is a combination of female and male characteristics, while neutrois is an elimination of them.
Neutrois is not genderless. While the prefix a- in agender may hint at a “lack of,” neutrois is not a lack of gender. Just like a neutral color does not mean colorless, or a neutral opinion does not mean without opinion, a neutral gender does mean without gender. Neutrois do have an internal gender, it just happens to be neither male, nor female. It’s neutral.
Neutrois are people, first and foremost. I am Neutrois. And all I want is to be happy
What is Asexuality?
Asexuals do not experience sexual attraction. There are many flavors of asexuality, the most divisive distinction being that of romantic orientation. There are aromantic and romantic asexuals, depending on whether one experiences romantic attraction or seeks romantic involvement with others. Asexuals can also identify as hetero-, homo-, bi-, pan-, etc- a/romantic asexual, depending on the primary gender of the target attractor. There are repulsed and non-repulsed asexuals, mostly indicating a willingness (not desire) to engage in any related acts. There’s grey/gray and demi designations, which are not entirely clear to me. I am a homoflexible-romantic asexual, ish.
The desire to engage in some form of sexual act with a particular person, the recipient of the attraction. This feeling has also been described as: the instant physical crush on first look, wanting to jump someone’s bones, wanting to get physical with someone who is hot, finding someone sexy and wanting to act sexually on this appeal, and probably many more cruder and/or scientific ways.
The desire to engage in some form of romantic attachment with a particular person, the recipient of the attraction. This feeling has also been described as: being in love, having a slight obsession, being emotionally vested, wanting to get to know someone, a personality crush, and probably many more sappy and corny ways.
While my end goal is not to give a 101 training, one of my main objectives IS to achieve a greater understanding of others, and ourselves. If any of this is unclear, dubiously explained, or left unsaid, feel free to comment or ask about it.