About Micah

micah is awesome

Who am I?

That’s me. I don’t always look this dazzling, though generally I try to maintain adequate levels of awesomeness. I’m nearly already-30 and live in San Francisco with my cheerful spouse (we’re both originally from Mexico City). Unfortunately we have no canine, feline, or human pets yet. I’m Micah. Nice to meet you.

I also identify as transgender.

Over the past 5 years I’ve been transitioning – or rather, trying to figure out what transition means to me, as someone whose gender is neither female nor male. Specifically, I’ve done stuff with my body, my name, and my legal documents, to find comfort and happiness.

Throughout this journey, I’ve discovered a lot about the LGBTQ community, about being transgender, about the way your body works, about the medical system and the legal system and even the political system, because it’s all intertwined and our health and happiness is contingent on society supporting us. I’ve found that the lessons learned extend beyond gender into life in general.

The (Short) Blurb About a (Short) 3rd Person

A published writer, engaging advocate, and expert educator on transgender identities, Micah’s mission is to contribute positively to everyone’s experience with gender. With over 18,000 followers, Micah’s site neutrois.me is a leading resource among the transgender community. Micah presents humorously didactic workshops involving cookie metaphors, reluctantly talks to journalists, volunteers as a speaker at local schools, and is a closet idealist.

Micah has been interviewed by journalists from publications like New York Times Magazine, The Washington Post, or Psychology Today. Micah’s own writing has been published in The Advocate, Everyday Feminism, and Huffington Post, as well as the books Manning Up and Trans Bodies, Trans Selves.

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Original writing – about myself, my transition, resources on transition – is posted on this blog.

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For social media fiends, I’m also on Facebook and Twitter, and Tumblr. Each one has slightly different stuff. If it were up to me you’d follow me everywhere (just not to the bathroom).

Fuel My Work

You can also join the #GenderWarriors and support the wonderful creations of this tiny person. Simply buy me a cup of coffee once a month.

What is Neutrois, Non-Binary, Genderqueer, LGBTQIA, QUILTBAG, WTF?

Non-binary and Genderqueer are umbrella terms that refer to people whose gender is not strictly male or female. Within these umbrellas, various labels designate distinct gender identities. Each word represents a distinct identity. Think about “crayons!” as an umbrella for a type of writing instrument, then specifying the color of your crayon.

Generally I describe myself as transgender or non-binary, as this is the simplest way to convey the most important part of my gender. My own particular gender experience is of neither – not male, not female – or what “neutrois” means to me.

I’m Friendly!

But not furry, thankfully. Although you’ve found me on the internet, I’m also a human you can talk to. For real. No contracts or hidden fees.

Email me micah AT neutrois DOT me or use this handy-dandy form.

44 responses to “About Micah

  1. Hey, I just wanted to say that I just discovered your blog, and I absolutely love it. I also want to congratulate you on your surgery going so well, and I hope you’re feeling better.

  2. Oh, I forgot to ask: Would you allow me to make a link to your site? I really do enjoy your blog, and I would love to recommend it to others via my own blog. Pending your approval, of course.

    • Hi Meike – I’m very glad you found the blog and you’re enjoying it. Of course, feel free to post links to it anywhere else, or reference it in any way. I guess the whole point of it is to share the information for others, just like they did for me. Also ask me any questions anytime!

  3. Wow!!! I LOVE your open honesty all over the internet promoting and trying to educate about non-binary genders. I’ve only recently heard of the term “neutrois,” and pretty much instantly fell in love with it. While I can’t say that I’m neutrois, there’s something extremely attractive about it as a gender identity that fits me better than anything else I’ve heard. Thank you for sharing. THANK YOU! I’ll be sure to check back regularly🙂

    • THANK YOU for your very kind words. I’m glad you stumbled onto something useful (and a little concerned that I’m all over the internet, but I guess that’s good right?).

      Neutrois is a tricky word with lots of definitions floating out there, so take from it what fits, and we can make up the rest as we go. You are very welcome here and I am always open to questions or conversations of any kind.

  4. I’m the girl with the black bow from the Americorps group today, and I just wanted to take the opportunity to thank you for such an inspiring presentation. As a member of the queer community myself, I really appreciated hearing your reflections about your childhood in Mexico City as well as your life now here in San Francisco. I saw that you climb at MC as well; there is a group of us that climb there 3X/week from Americorps. Perhaps we can all meet up sometime!

  5. First I liked the layout of the home page with many different posts to choose at the start. It is more interesting than just scrolling and make me wonder if I should change mine.
    Of course, I read “about” and select posts to start and now understand your purpose here. I think it is great to venture into other topics along the way.

  6. you live your life and you think that you have met enough people from all kinds of walks of life to be able to navigate comfortably and interact on the same level but then you just keep finding new varieties of people, new identities, new sexualities, new …other things that make you speechless and remind you that we know nothing.

    It also reminds us that labeling people and trying to put them in small boxes to make us feel comfortable is just wrong. We are so different and unique and that is the greatest thing in this world. That makes this world a better place to live in.

    • Yep, every year I say to myself “well that was quite the experience, I learned so much, it seems impossible that there would be more left to learn.” And every year I prove myself wrong, and learn about things I could not even imagine existed! I hope to keep being wrong every year.

  7. Hey, Micah! (is it okay to casually call you by your name?) I have been following you for a while and I think that you run quite an interesting and inspiring blog. I nominated you for an Inspiring blog award. You do not have to participate in this but check it out if you like.

    Here’s the shortlink to my post:

    Good day to you🙂

  8. Thanks so much for following my blog – I’ve just spent half my morning wandering around yours, and I’m loving your writing style and your humour and honesty! Now I really have to drag myself away and get to work…
    ~ karyn

  9. Thank you for dropping by my blog and the follow. I look forward to exploring yours some more. . . lots to see here. Cheers.

  10. Maddox, a completely interesting blog (I’ve only skimmed but will return later)! I like the writing and the openness. thanks for following my animal blog; stop by my other one sometimes: amirhbahati.wordpress.com. Be back later.

  11. I’m so happy to have discovered your blog and I look forward to following you in your journey! Keep on keeping on, kiddo! Blessings to you and those you love…..Be well, my pint-sized new friend! xoJulia

  12. p.s. I wrote a piece on Frank Ocean’s ‘coming out’ and how everyone is constantly trying to put labels on people. I hope you can check it out! Why can’t we all just be considered complex people?

  13. Maddox,
    First things first! Your following “Randa Lane…” made my day! Your site, your enthusiasm, and zest for life come shining through every word you write. Sooo refreshing. Now…I am a MtF crossdresser, thus marginally on the fringes of “all things transgendered!” But I read voraciously everything I can, with especial attention to articles concerning “transition” with all that implies. Your blog will so instrumental in keeping me abreast of current events. Thanks for giving voice to those who so very desperately need such a voice as yours.

    Wamest Respect,


  14. Thanks for following my blog. I look forward to following you also and getting to know you on WordPress. This was the best “about” page I’ve ever read. You make me want to revise mine. I love your writing tone and the great way you organized the information here with headings and links. Dang…I sound like a technical writing teacher, don’t I? That’s my day job, but I take it home with me : ) I love good writing and good layout/design. You’ve both. Nice to meet you!

  15. Kia ora Micah, love your blog – it’s great to know there’s a whole community of us young queer and trans* people out there sharing our stories🙂 happy to have found your site and to be part of creating an awesome space for diverse representations of gender and sexuality! Cheers for the follow too x

  16. Hi Micah,

    Thanks so much for the follow. I look forward to reading about your journey. You and your partner sound nice. 🙂 And great intro by the way.

    Blessings from NYC…

  17. Hey, Micah. A friend pointed out your tumblr post about my novel IN HER SKIN. Just wanted to say thanks for making me all kinds of happy! Your shared story is helping heal hearts all over the place. Keep it up!
    Trina Sotira

  18. i am not quite sure how you stumbled onto my crazy blog but i am so so so glad you did! it was kinda strange, i was reading a poem from my blog called no home a trans poem at a poetry reading bc you know it’s nov 20th and all, and the notification of your hello popped up as i was reading!!! i honestly, for reals, really can’t wait to read tons of your work!!! i think we can talk about a whole bunch of stuff!!! looking forward to getting to know you!-gracie

  19. I don’t really know what to say because I’m too… freaked out to email you directly. I’m reading your items labeled “top surgery” and my head is just about to explode from how much I can relate to things you are saying, though I’m not in the place you were when you wrote those posts. Seriously, freaking out just a little. Maybe more than a little…

  20. Hey there! Thank you for checking out my blog, as well as taking the time to follow it. (: I hope you enjoy reading my future posts. You have a simply fantastic blog, yourself, and it’s great to read and learn something new every time I come back to it. I’ve enjoyed following your journey thus far, and I look forward to seeing where you go and what you do from here on out. You are such an open, amazing person, and you’ve provided advice for so many people out there in the world.
    Thanks again!

  21. Hi Micah, I stumbled upon your blog this evening and realised I’d read (part of) your story before, although I don’t think it was on word press. Sounds like you’re doing well. x

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  23. I just found your blog through the HuffPost repost… I was really glad to see someone else who has transitioned/is read male and still expresses through “femme” clothing? I’ve been really struggling with this lately.

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